All my life I believed nothing is going to change me. Every good friend mine told me “Do not change Namrata, you are sweet this way.” I not only promised to all my friends but also to myself that I will never change.
There are some incidents that made me take this decision. My close friends who got married much before me, the life that I shared with them after their marriage to the life we shared together before their marriage was so very different. Sometimes this made me feel bad, some times angry and some times depressing. Bad because I no more have the emotional freedom in the relation; Angry because my place in the priority list was shifting down in the list; and depressing because days might be the same for me too in the future.
What are big changes that hurt me? No phone calls, not even picking up my calls, sometimes worse not even mails, no going out, One movie plan would get postponed n number of times, cannot drop into their house any time I wished to, no ganging up and meeting, no freedom to be as I am in front of their new family and many more BIG things.
All I thought was how can I miss those unforgettable days where we were just a phone call away couldn’t stop communicating the smallest things, Movies, eating out, fun, ganging up late in the night, and all the fun with my dearest buddies.
Going back and complaining these things to my friends was making things more complicated. Rather than soothing me, they newly found me talking too much, not punctual, freaking out too much, not understanding at all, not responsible and the list went on.
Life was going on with new friends, I was on my own way going trips, movies, late night parties, dinners, pubs, long drives, getting up late in the morning, sleeping late in the night, working late hours at office, my books, gym, TV shows, eating out, absolutely unpredictable what I was going to do the following hour.
My problems were repeating, the next bunch of friends getting married and my worries coming back. And again I made my promise “I shall not change!” Like this I found myself hanging out with a bunch of boys (all the girlies got married)
One fine day, on the 31st day of August 2007 I got married. Now it’s nearly 10 months that I am married. How much did I change?!
This is my life now ….
I get up late in morning as usual run to work.
Come back and COOK,
That’s is in BIG letters because this is the biggest change .. I never came back home on time, I never cooked before marriage and neither did I appreciate people who cooked for me. I always believed eating out is tastier, time saving and fun. How mean was I, now I realize. I understand the pain of cooking, and the happiness in cooking for people whom we love. My first sorry goes to my Mom, who cooked all her life to make me happy and healthy and I never realized this always went back home after I ate outside never bothering to inform her that I am not going to home for dinner.
This is one dumb thing I have started doing now, I call it relaxation yet I know am killing my time with the worst weapon.
I haven’t done much of this too all my life, Where ever I was I relied upon others, at home It was my mom who was right behind me cleaning up all the stuff I pulled out, In Guntur when I was in hostel it was Brinda my buddy, in BBSR when I was there for training it was Bala and Bindu. And in London it was Sunita.
But now in America married Namrata is all different!! I spend a lot of time cleaning and arranging stuff.
Then Eat and Sleep!
How much I Love to eat out!! But I am cooking now, so everyone has to eat at home .. haha!! This is what I expect!
Week ends are more than hectic, visiting the grocery store, cleaning the house, and the big activity sleeping.
Oh my God !!! How much did I change?!!!!
Where are my books! Where is my gym! Where are my friends!!! Where is my phone!!! Yet there is the fun !!!
I know I have lost my time for most of these things! Unknowingly my priorities have changed, my responsibilities have doubled. Now I understand how life changes after marriage! Every day now I understand how my friends would have felt in the transition to married life.
This is the biggest transition in Life! This transition will not change who you are what you are but it changes in the way of living. Now I understand all I feared or didn’t want to go through was this transition. Thanks to Srinu my husband who helped me survive this transition better.
MARRIED LIFE IS FUN !!! DEFINITELY NOT A FEAR ANYMORE!!!!